Dating: Make Her Miss You

Limit your telephone interaction

The mature approach to keeping a woman interested is to limit your availability. Refrain from answering all of her calls, and when she leaves a message that isn’t urgent, allow a few hours to pass before you return her call (the same applies for text messages). But be sure to ALWAYS remain courteous and return the call at some point. Be mindful not to cross the fine line between stimulating her interest and seeming uninterested -- if you’re not interested, you can’t make her miss you.


Limit the time you spend with her

The importance of pacing yourself cannot be overstressed, as this will allow the romance to evolve naturally. The best way to do this is to put yourself on a two- to three-month schedule. During the first two or three months of your interaction, only meet with her during the week for small outings, such as dinner, a movie or an art showing. Keep it sweet and simple; show just enough to entice her and to exhibit your creativity. Weekends are reserved for intimate exchanges between couples. In the meantime, give the impression that you have a weekend life and use the weekdays as the opportunity to make her miss you and desire inclusion in your weekends.


First-date lingering
Shifting and shuffling your feet waiting for an invite into her home at the end of a date is not recommended. It is not necessary to extend an evening longer than it should be at this point in your interaction. If you do, you run the risk of getting caught up in the honeymoon stage. Politely walk her to her door, then leave promptly. This brings closure to the moment, and also gives her room to miss you.


Don’t accept all her invitations

Decline a few of her invitations, specifically those that include groups of friends. Remember, having a social calendar gives the impression that she will not become your only source of entertainment in the event you end up in a relationship with her.
i want you to want me


All of these tips are keys in making a woman miss you or having her bask in the wave of fluttering butterflies and anticipation for the next time she sees you, and these tips truly work wonders during the initial stages of getting to know a woman. Don’t forget that as the relationship develops, it is essential to have a life of your own. Space, which can often be confused with disconnection, allows a woman to be herself, by herself, which will benefit you in the long run. Who knows, it may even expand the lifetime of your relationship with her.

Dog's 10 Commandment to Mankind

The 10 Commandments

1. My life is likely to last 10-15 years. Any separation from you will be painful for me. Remember that before you get me.



2. Give me time to understand what you want from me.



3. Place your trust in me.



4. Don’t be angry with me for long, and don’t lock me up as punishment. You have your work, entertainment and friends. I only have you.



5. Talk to me sometimes. Even if I don’t understand your words, I understand your voice.



6. Be aware that however you treat me, I’ll never forget it.



7. Please don’t hit me. I can’t hit back, but I can bite and scratch and I really don’t want to do that.



8. Before you scold me for being uncooperative, obstinate, or lazy, ask yourself if something might be bothering me. Perhaps I’m not getting the right foods or I’ve been out in the sun too long or my heart is getting old and weak.



9. Take care of me when I get old. You too will grow old.



10. Go with me on difficult journeys. Never say “I can’t bear to watch” or “Let it happen in my absence”. Everything is easier for me if you are there. Remember, I love you.

How to stop excessive barking

A dog’s natural instinct is to protect his home & property. A dog that is unsupervised or out of reach cannot be corrected for barking (or digging, or chewing…).


In order to work with barking, therefore, the dog must be supervised and easily reached during times of (possible) barking.
To facilitate teaching not to bark, you do NOT have to wait for the situations of barking to happen. Enlist help, and set up the situation! Practice several times in a row to teach.


The easiest way to work with barking (as with anything) is to have the dog on a leash (or umbilical leash – a little safer). That way, it is easier to catch and correct (and praise!) the dog.


Methods to teach a dog not to bark:
First, pick a word or phrase that will be your command to stop barking. Suggestions can be: “Quiet!”, “Enough!”, “No Bark!”, “Hush!”, “That’ll Do!”. I never use “Shut Up!”, and I prefer not to use “No”.

Set up for barking, and have a leash on the dog. When the barking happens, take the leash (step on the leash if you have to “catch” the dog or just have the leash in your hand to start!), give a firm tug horizontally to the floor and firmly use your word.

When the dog is quiet, calmly & quietly praise (“GOOD quiet”). Sometimes a tiny soft-moist treat can reinforce your praise (brought down to the dog’s level).

If the pop on the leash doesn’t help, you can incorporate a squirt bottle into the equation. Give a sharp series of squirts right in the face, firm command to quiet, and, for extra measure, have the dog SIT. Your correction should only be as firm as it needs to be. You can also use a small “shaker container”. Do not use these tools to threaten.

I like to teach a command for “guard barking” – my command is “Who’s there?” My dogs will run to the door and bark. I tell them “Good who’s there!” and then I will use my quiet command to tell them that is enough. I use this to get my dogs to respond to the doorbell or knock.

If I have an excessive barker, or to make my point of QUIET clearer, I will enforce a firm DOWN. This is a leadership gesture on my part (I am the leader, and you comply with my wishes) and also a dog in a down generally does not bark. You can make sure the dog remains in a down by stepping on the leash.

Although you have no way to correct barking when you are not home, you may want to leave a tape recorder or video camera on to see when barking happens, what causes the barking and the duration of the barking. Guard barking, for example, is handled a little differently than lonely or random barking.

Barking is a normal dog behavior. In excess, it can be irritating. If controlled, barking can be useful!

Dog on band wagon

I capture this when I was on holiday in New Zealand
few years ago.

Dogs there truly enjoy fresh mountain air.

Build Your Shoulder

If you’ve struggled with shoulder pain in the past or want to avoid it in the future, this move is for you. It’s a new spin on an exercise called the face pull, courtesy of Bill Hartman, P.T., C.S.C.S., a physical therapist in Indianapolis.

This unique movement—pulling your arms toward you while rotating them up—targets your back’s typically weak scapular muscles, which stabilize your shoulder joints. Try it once or twice a week at the end of an upper-body training session.

THE BENEFIT

Strengthens your rear deltoids and lower trapezius, pulling your upper body into its natural alignment, with the shoulder blades back and down.

OUR EXPERT’S TIPS

Lifting too much weight can throw off your balance and technique. Start with two sets of 15 to 20 reps. As this becomes easier, add weight and reduce the number of reps (while still completing 8 or more per set).

HOW TO DO IT

1 Attach a rope to the high pulley of a cable station and grab an end with each hand so your palms face each other, thumbs toward you.

2 Back a few steps away from the weight stack until your arms are straight in front of you and you feel tension in the cable.

3 Pull the rope toward your eyes so your hands end up just outside your ears. You should be positioned in the classic bodybuilder’s “doublebiceps pose.”4 Allow your arms to straighten out slowly in front of you.

Private airplanes

While most have to slum it in economy class, with their knees touching their faces, and dealing with snooty airport assistants, lost baggage and in-flight food not good enough to feed a dog, the rich and famous fly on their very own private airplanes.Take John Travolta, for instance; he has a fleet of five jets that he captains himself (including a Boeing 707), and he even has his own 1.4-mile landing strip built into his backyard. Then there are Brad and Angelina, who have a small Cirrus SR22 airplane to jet back and forth when they feel like adopting another African child. And of course, Roman Abramovich, the rich Russian owner of the UK’s Chelsea Football Club, owns a Boeing 767 to ferry him from one peroxide blonde to another. It seems like the sky is the limit when it comes to private airplanes for the A-list jet set, as they guzzle gallons of fuel while preaching to us mere mortals about environmental conservation.

Missouri hybridizers look to create diverse day lilies

COLUMBIA — The flowers are planted in the style of cornrows. Deep-red, misty pink and eggplant-purple blooms stand in row-by-row succession. This is not a flower garden. This is an open-air laboratory.
The laboratory belongs to Lloyd Calvin, a day lily hybridizer. Calvin is one of a number in the area who have made a hobby of tinkering with the coloring, shape and texture of day lilies in search of the perfect hybrid ready for registration.

Day lilies are appealing for a number of reasons. The hybridization process is simple — the procedure could be taught in a basic high school science course. Also, it’s a hardy perennial plant that comes back every year.
When Calvin initially got into hybridizing, he experimented with irises, but quickly gave up when insects ravaged his plants.
“Them ol’ day lilies don’t have too many enemies,” Calvin said.

Since the 1980’s, Calvin, a retired plumber, has spent summer mornings transferring pollen from a stamen — the male part — of one flower to the pistil — the female part — of another. This activity, normally performed by bees and butterflies, produces a seed pod just below the bloom. The seed pod is full of seeds from the two crossed plants.
Calvin’s understanding of genetics goes as far as to know that a tetraploid day lily has double the chromosomes of a diploid variety at 22 chromosomes. But he doesn’t know enough to explain why two of the same exact yellow flower, when crossed, produce maybe some yellows, maybe a purple, maybe a pink flower.

It’s not the book science that fascinates Calvin. It’s the experimentation, the lure of the unknown. He once crossed a dark purple with a coral flower in hopes of getting a bright purple bloom he could call Purple Scream. The bloom turned out bright red.
Perhaps it’s no surprise that Calvin draws inspiration from other explorers of the unknown: “I never miss Star Trek,” Calvin said.

Calvin’s garden, Voyager Day Lily Garden, is named after the Star Trek Voyager spacecraft. Calvin’s original idea was to name all his hybrids after Star Trek characters, but he ran into some trademark infringement issues. Still, one of his hybrids, Neelix, is named after a character on Star Trek Voyager.

Day lily hybridizers officially name and register hybrids that are particularly desirable. Unique coloring, gold edging, and hardiness are some of the sought-after traits. But Calvin’s attitude toward registering his hybrids is very pragmatic, “If I like it and it does good for me, then I register it.”

Calvin has registered 27 day lilies.
Bob McConnell, another local hybridizer and owner of McConnell’s Plantland, takes a more cautious approach to registering his hybrids. McConnell says that if he’s going to put his name on something, he wants it to be good: “I would say I’m pretty choosy.”
McConnell says that of the 10,000 to 15,000 seedlings he’s cultivated while hybridizing, so far he’s named and registered four.

Both Calvin and McConnell donated at least one of their hybrids to the Missouri hybridizers day lily bed at Bradford Research and Extension Center.
The Missouri hybridizers bed was an initiative of the local Day Lily Club, of which Calvin and McConnell are both members.

When asked by Bradford Research and Extension Center to donate a bed of identified, labeled day lilies, the Day Lily Club decided to give the bed the theme “Hybridizers of Missouri.” The goal was to obtain at least one specimen from each day lily hybridizer in Missouri.
Bradford Research and Extension Center, besides its research corn, wheat and soybeans fields, has a number of flower beds open to public viewing.

There are a lot of day lily hybridizers in the area, said Tim Reinbott from Bradford Research and Extension Center. The purpose of the day lily bed is to “bring the public awareness of what’s out there,” Reinbott said.

All the flowers were donated by club members.
The Day Lily Club will also be hosting a competitive Day Lily Show at Daniel Boone Regional Library on Saturday. Some area hybridizers, including McConnell, will be entering.
Calvin says he’s entered day lily shows in the past, but he doesn’t anymore. “It’s just too much trouble.”

Each individual day lily bloom stays open only one day — hence the name. Each plant can have anywhere from five to fifty blooms. Thus, entering a show is unpredictable. “You don’t know what you’ll have blooming,” Calvin said.

All the primping and the plucking might win the judges’ votes, but Calvin says he has no desire to “groom them things.”
Spoken like a true scientist.

INSTANT CARDIOA morning pickme- up: Coffee can keep your arteries from clogging. While analyzing the cholesterol levels of 10 coffee drinkers, Swiss scientists found that LDL particles soak up java’s antioxidants. As a result, the LDL is 20 percent less likely to become an oxidized form of the bad cholesterol that develops into artery-clogging plaque, says one study author, Cristina Scaccini, Ph.D. The benefit tops out after three daily mugs of joe. Caffeine conflicted? Decaf does the trick, too.

Hidden Gardens of Paris

NEXT to the Palais de la Découverte, just off the Champs-Élysées, is a flight-of-fancy sculpture of the 19th-century poet Alfred de Musset daydreaming about his former lovers. As art goes, the expanse of white marble is pretty mediocre, and its sculptor, Alphonse de Moncel, little-remembered. For me, however, it is a crucial marker. To its right is a path with broken stone steps that lead down into one of my favorite places in Paris, a tiny stage-set called Jardin de la Vallée Suisse.

Part of the Champs-Élysées’ gardens, this “Swiss Valley” was built from scratch in the late 19th century by the park designer Jean-Charles Adolphe Alphand. It is a lovely illusion, where nothing is quite what it appears at first sight. The rocks that form the pond and waterfall are sculptured from cement; so is the “wooden” footbridge. But the space — 1.7 acres of semitamed wilderness in one of the most urban swaths of Paris — has lured me, over and over again. My only companions are the occasional dog walker and the police woman making her rounds.
On a park bench there, I am enveloped by evergreens, maples, bamboo, lilacs and ivy. There are lemon trees; a Mexican orange; a bush called a wavyleaf silktassel, with drooping flowers, that belongs in an Art Nouveau painting; and another whose leaves smell of caramel in the fall. A 100-year-old weeping beech shades a pond whose waterfall pushes away the noise of the streets above. The pond, fed by the Seine, can turn murky, but the slow-moving carp don’t seem to mind, nor does the otter that surfaces from time to time.

The Swiss Valley is one of the most unusual of Paris’s more than 400 gardens and parks, woods and squares. Much grander showcases include wooded spaces like the Bois de Vincennes on the east of the city and the Bois de Boulogne on the west, and celebrations of symmetry in the heart of Paris like the Tuileries and the Luxembourg.

But I prefer the squares and parks in quiet corners and out-of-the-way neighborhoods. Many are the legacy of former President Jacques Chirac. In the 18 years he served as mayor of Paris, he put his personal stamp on his city by painting its hidden corners green.

“He took some of the pathetic, shabby squares and gardens and transformed and adorned them,” said Claude Bureau, one of the city’s great garden historians who was chief gardener of the Jardin des Plantes for more than two decades. “He appreciated beauty — of women, of nature.”

Paris’s current mayor, Bertrand Delanoë, has taken over the task. In his seven years in the job, he has created 79 acres of what City Hall calls “new green spaces.” Just this month, he transformed the open space in front of City Hall into an “ephemeral garden,” a nearly 31,000-square-foot temporary installation of 6,000 plants and trees, and even a mini-lake.
Intimate, lightly trafficked and often quirky, the small gardens of Paris can be ideal places to rest and to read. The trick is to find them. You can consult “Paris: 100 Jardins Insolites” (“Paris: 100 Unusual Gardens”), a guide by Martine Dumond whose color photos make discovery for the non-French speaker a pleasure, or explore various Web sites like www.paris-walking-tours.com/parisgardens.html. Or you can simply wander on foot, confident that around the next corner there will be something new.

You’ll find spaces for listening to a concert or watching a puppet show (like the Parc de Bagatelle in the 16th Arrondissement); church gardens (like the one enclosing the Evangelical Lutheran Church in the Seventh Arrondissement); gardens with vegetable patches (like the Jardin Catherine-Labouré in the Seventh Arrondissement); oriental gardens (like the one at Unesco headquarters in the Seventh Arrondissement that was a gift of the Japanese government). There are gardens with beehives, bird preserves, out-of-fashion roses, chessboards, playgrounds, menageries, panoramic views, even a rain forest and a farm. Green spaces adjoin cemeteries, embassies, movie theaters and hotels.
Even hospitals.

I doubt that most visitors to Notre-Dame Cathedral know that inside the nearby Hôtel-Dieu complex, which is still a working hospital, is a formal garden-courtyard with sculptured 30-year-old boxwoods. The hospital’s gardener replants much of the space every May — with fuchsias, sage, impatiens and Indian roses.

From the top of the flight of steps that cuts across the garden, you can find yourself all alone, looking out through the hospital’s windows to the tourist hordes outside. Every few months, the hospital’s interns choose a different costume for the male statue at the back — at the moment, he is Snow White.

(It was Mr. Bureau who told me that some of the most peaceful gardens belong to hospitals. Gardens help cure patients more quickly, he said).
The Square René Viviani on the Left Bank across from Notre-Dame is another spot that is easy to miss. But this tranquil square features what is said to be the oldest tree in Paris — a false acacia brought to France from Virginia in 1601, and now shored up with concrete posts. Sitting on a park bench in one corner yields one of the best views in Paris — Notre-Dame on the right and St.-Julien-le-Pauvre, a tiny church built in the same era on the left.
And then there are the gardens that are the back or front yards of museums. For instance, at the cafe-garden of the Petit-Palais— with its palm and banana trees and sculptures and mosaic floors lit from below — a half dozen marble tables and metal chairs offer the ideal setting to watch the museum’s stone walls change from buff to tawny yellow as the sun moves.
Inside the museum is a portrait of Alphand (whose park designs include the Bois de Boulogne, the Parc Monceau and the Parc Montsouris, as well as the Vallée Suisse) in a top hat, his pince-nez hanging from his black overcoat.

And then there are country settings like the garden of the Musée de la Vie Romantique, once the home of the 19th-century artist Ary Sheffer, at the end of a narrow path at 16, rue Chaptal in the Ninth Arrondissement. There, you can sit among the poppies, foxglove and roses and sip tea (a cafe opens in the summer) and pretend to be George Sand, who lived nearby, and whose personal effects have been assembled in a reconstructed drawing room inside (even a lock of her hair).

Dominant dog

If your dog is aggressive or dominant, start slowly. A sudden display of alpha behavior to a dog who considers himself the alpha will be seen as a challenge and the dog may choose an aggressive course of action. For instance, if you take the dog's food away, something which an owner needs to be able to do, you could be bitten if the dog does not yet see you as its leader.Asserting dominance over an alpha dog without understanding more about how an alpha behaves could cause serious consequences, including a very serious dog bite. Do not make the mistake of thinking that a dog won't bite you. Most dog bites are the result of the dog feeling fearful and with enough fear arousal even a mild-mannered dog has the capacity to bite.Know your dogJulianne Stovall said: "


.The more I learn about training, the more I realize it depends so much on BOTH the dog and the owner as to what will work. Techniques that are almost like magic with one dog are useless or damaging for another. A trick that one person uses naturally and positively can be ineffective, or even destructive, when another person attempts it. The only training technique that is truly universal is learning to read your dog."Dogs thrive with the security of knowing they have a consistent, dependable leader. However, if you do not provide that leadership then your dog will assume the leader or Alpha position. Your dog is constantly communicating with you and seeking guidance as to whom is in charge. The Alpha behaviors discussed below are cues or communication that signal pack position within your home. If you do not signal that you are in charge, your dog is genetically programmed to fill this void in leadership. The result could be a dog that is stressed by the responsibility of attempting to lead his pack in a human environment that is beyond his mental capabilities. This stress may lead to acting out in negative ways that range from excessive barking to lethal aggression. Dogs are not human. You can severely harm your dog with what is mistakenly viewed as kindness.